Top Secrets For Enjoyment Of A Successful And Exciting Marriage
It takes knowledge to enjoy exciting marriage. It is said that knowledge is power and right application of knowledge is wisdom. It is equally said that what you don’t know is your senior and you are intimidated by what you don’t know.
I am saying all these because many marriages are having crises; some are falling apart while others are ending in divorce.
In this series, we shall be looking at “top secrets for enjoying a successful and exciting marriage”
One of the major reason why there are crises in some marriages is because some couples are doing what they ought not to do while failing to do what they ought to do with their marriage relationships.
As a result, there are big cracks in their marriage relationships and often these cracks keep expanding until the entire structure is pulled down.
Of a truth, there is no marriage on earth that is so perfect that it does not experience crises or misunderstandings most times.
The only difference is the way the crises or misunderstanding is managed or handled. The issue that is causing crises in one family; another family may be seeing the same issue in a different angle and using the issue to tease themselves and laugh over it.
Many family crises get out of hand because couples concerned failed to manage the crises very well.
Before I continue may I point out one thing that you should take note of, and that is “no two families or marriages are exactly the same” because what is working for one family may not work with another family in an exact manner.
I said this because some go and import what is happening in one marriage and expect to see the exact result seen in that marriage in their own marriage. Failing which couples begin to accuse each other of been responsible.
So what you see in your own marriage depends on your having a correct working knowledge of certain marriage principles and equally applying correctly the principles.
That is to say, if you know and apply the secrets for enjoying a successful and exciting marriage correctly, your marriage will succeed and blossom.
We shall be exploring here few of these secrets that make for a successful and exciting marriage.
Have an understanding of yourself and your partner: if you want to have a successful and exciting marriage relationship, you need to understand yourself in the first place.
To understand yourself means to know you’re overall makeup, that is your temperament. You act the way you do because of your temperament.
For instance, if you bring an introvert and extrovert together, you will see that the two may react over an issue differently, that is in a different way.
In addition to understanding your temperament, you need to understand the temperament of your spouse as well.
To understand the make-up or temperament of your spouse goes a long way to avoiding or prevent certain actions that bring crises between a couple.
Learn to accept, acknowledge and apologize when you’re wrong: Many family crises results from our refusal to accept or acknowledge that we are wrong even when we are.
You should understand that refusing to accept responsibilities started from the beginning of time.
Then the man said, “The woman whom you gave to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I ate.” And the LORD God said to the woman, “What is this you have done?” The woman said, “The serpent deceived me, and I ate.”
You see, from the above, when GOD confronted Adam for eating the forbidden fruit; Adam blamed his action on the Woman.
When GOD confronted the woman, she passed the blame on the serpent. We are quick to transfer the blame for our action to somebody else instead of owning up to our wrong.
The secret to a successful marriage is for couples to boldly accept or acknowledge when they are wrong. Accepting and apologizing to our partner when we are wrong goes a long way to healing many wounds.
That is why “I AM SORRY” are three words that do wonder in relationships. End of part one, to be continued—-
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