Standing In Our Own Way
At one time or another, all of us have been crippled by issues of self-doubt and low self-confidence, and have allowed them to stop us from accomplishing what we wanted to accomplish.
What is really sad, is that in many cases, overcoming our own self-doubt is more difficult for us than actually accomplishing the goal we have set for ourselves. In the end, we end up not accomplishing our goal, not because we failed at it, but because we never attempted it in the first place.
Whether it be in our personal lives, or in our marriage, instead of pushing through to accomplish our goals, we listen to the negative voices in our head that tell us “it will never work,” or “I’m not capable of doing this.”
I’ll be the first to admit that this has been my mode of operation for much of my life. For years, I worked hard to make sure I only set realistic (LOW) goals for myself, to keep the risk low and avoid failure.
In the past year, however, a chain of events started that will eventually end with me starting a new career. While I am excited about it, the training and birthing of this new career have caused me to have to face and conquer my self-doubt head on, on a near-daily basis.
And while I have a long way to go and many more fears to conquer along the way. So far it’s going fine, thanks to the many people I have on my side to hold me accountable, and help me and encourage me. I couldn’t do it without every one of them.
What are you putting off or not even attempting because you’re afraid you might fail? Whether it’s making changes to improve your marriage, asking your boss for a raise, or starting a new career, you will never know what you’re capable of unless you try.
Sure, you might not succeed on your first try. If that happens, instead of quitting, learn from your mistake, change your approach, and try again. If necessary, enlist a friend to use a support system and provide accountability. You only fail if you quit.
I leave you with this to think over.
Michael Jordan, Cut from his high school basketball team and was told he didn’t have any talent.
Albert Einstein, Wasn’t able to speak until he was 4 years old and his teachers said he would never amount to anything.
Abraham Lincoln, Fired from a job, failed at a business and lost 7 elections on his way to becoming president.