How To Deal With Causes Of Marriage Failures In Our Society
In our society today, there are lots of marriage failures as divorce cases are on the increase every day. Some of these marriages that had collapsed started very well as your own marriage started very well but later some of the marriages collapsed along the line.
Some of the marriages that collapsed, couples involved in such marriages feel that the reason the collapse of their marriages was because they married the wrong person. For the avoidance of doubt, you may not have married the wrong person but you are the wrong person because the success or failure of your marriage depends on you.
The major cause of some marriage failure is ignorance on the part of the couples involved. This is because some couples, as a result of ignorance; they are doing what they ought not to be doing in their marriages while failing to do what they suppose to be doing.
This is a fact, couples who fail to follow God’s laid out principles that make for successful and exciting marriages, such marriages will surely collapse. I was listening to late Dr. Myles Monroe, speaking of the need to follow manufacturer’s manual or blueprints.
The person who fails to heed the instructions as contained in the manufacturer’s manual don’t stand the chance to enjoy a product as the manufacturer of a product is in a better position to direct how his product is to be used as to get better or maximum satisfaction from the product.
According to Dr. Monroe, if you want to enjoy a product, you must necessarily follow the directives of the manufacturer of that product as contained in the manual. Failure to follow the manufacturer’s manual may result in the malfunction of those products.
In the same way, God is the originator or manufacturer of marriage and marriage failures are an offshoot of a marital problem that results from not following God’s blueprints or manual for a successful marriage. The reason for not following God’s instructions concerning how to run successful marriages is a result of ignorance.
As a result of ignorance, some couples directly went against God’s instruction as contained in the manual. God’s manual is the Bible and God said in Ephesians 5: 25 & 28 “ Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself”.
See also Colossians 3:19 which say, “Husbands, love your wives and be not bitter against them”.In other words, show me men who love their wives deeply and I will show you men that will enjoy a successful marriage.
It is only men who fail to love their wives that their marriages collapse. In other words, no matter your religious beliefs, as long as you fail to obey the above Biblical instruction about loving your wife, your marriage is prone or doomed to fail.
Also the same Ephesians 5:22-23 said, “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body”. See also Colossian 3:18 which say, “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord”.
As a woman, whether you are religiously inclined or not, if you fail to heed the above instruction of been submissive to your husband, your marriage will be doomed to collapse. Apart from been submissive to your husband, Ephesians 5: 23 had this to say, “For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body”
In other words, in most cases, most of the crises we do witness today marriages are from wives who refuse to recognize their husbands as the head of the marriage. Some men even resort to domestic violence when their wives begin to challenge their headship of the marriage. From all that is said above, both the husband and wife is to be blamed for the issues of marriage failures we observe today in our society.
Talking about submission, some men generally guilty of quarreling with their wives of not been submissive but they failed to take care of their own side of the bargain. I said this because I have never seen a man who loves and cherishes his wife whose wife will not, in turn, be submissive.
In other words, before you expect your wife to be submissive to you, ensure that you love and cherish her very well and as a woman, before you complain that your husband did not love you, ensure that you respect and are submissive to him.
One other issue that really causes a marriage to fail is infidelity. Any marriage in which there is infidelity, such marriages hardly survive and most of the failures in our society normally follow accusations and counter-accusations of infidelity. This is because infidelity is the highest betrayal of trust in a marriage.
Moreover, some men resort to extramarital affairs because their wives starve or deny them of sexual satisfaction. One result of denying of sex is transferred aggression on the part of men who at times resort to domestic violence which causes marriages to collapse.
As a woman, if your husband is denied or starved of sex and he resorts to extramarital affairs, you are to be blamed. Man, you should show maturity with your wife in your relationship especially as it affects the issue of sex if you don’t want your marriage to fail.
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