Guidelines For An Exciting Marriage Part 3 By Pastor Faith Oyedepo
Waoh! Congratulations! You made it to 2018. Happy new year to you! It is my prayer that God’s clear picture of your life, destiny, and marriage will be unveiled to you this first month of the year. Your best days are just beginning!
In December 2017, I began a series on Guidelines for an Exciting Marriage. To have an exciting marriage means to be fulfilled; that is, being filled with joy, laughter and bliss. In the course of this series, I taught on possessing the right perspective and keeping yourself pure.
In this edition, I want to continue on another guideline for an exciting marriage which is: Running with a Set Standard. Anticipating a hassle-free marriage depends on how prepared you are for it. As a Christian, you must be able to set a godly standard if you must have a successful marital life.
From the above, it implies that not everyone is suitable for you, no matter how ‘pleasant’ they may seem. Yes, there is a “right person” to make your relationship be a ‘dream-be come-true’ and setting a standard will help you identify that person.
Let’s run through two major covenant pre-requisites for locating the perfect mate.
1. New Birth
Sometimes, some single Christians who have waited for so long and have not got the right person to marry, out of desperation, decide to hook up with whoever comes their way. They have forgotten that it is not how long they waited that matters, but how successful the marriage they are going into will be.
God’s Word emphasises that you shouldn’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14). You are a light and as such must not mingle with darkness; there is no correlation between the two of you. Irrespective of the moral standard of an unbeliever a Christian cannot go into marriage with such an individual and expect success.
For young converts who have been in an intended marriage relationship before conversion, please note that such a relationship should be broken. This is because the relationship started while they were both in darkness.
Now that one or both parties have been translated into the Kingdom of light, there ought not to be any carryover from the old kingdom to the new Kingdom.
It is important to note that courtship is not marriage; so, a broken courtship is not the same with divorce. Do not worry; rather be confident in God for He will surely give you a person after His own heart, who will make for an exciting marriage indeed.
Another covenant prerequisite for choosing the right mate is compatibility. The Bible says: Can two walk together, except they be agreed (Amos 3:3). If God places emphasis on this in His Word, then He will never ask you to marry someone you cannot agree with.
Your compatibility with the person you are aiming to be with for the rest of your life is very crucial because it determines whether that marriage is going to be exciting or the other way around.
It is important that you check for compatibility in the area of spirit, soul, and body. The spiritual aspect has been explained in the first point. However, that perfect mate must also match your expectation of appearance and composure.
It is important you choose who you would be proud and confident of anywhere anytime, but this shouldn’t becloud the leading of God. Bear in mind that people change and of course, mature in looks and composure.
Water, they say, seeks its own level. Though that is in the natural, it is very essential for you to go with someone you appreciate mentally. While choosing a partner, let it be basically for the purpose of marriage.
I said so because having counseled various people, I found out that even Christians choose for ulterior motives such as money, fame, positions, etc.
As believers in Jesus’ Christ, flee youthful lusts (2 Timothy 2:22); and one way to do this is to keep oneself from every relationship that will not end up in marriage.
It is easy, however, to be busy looking out for the right person, with your desired qualities, without quite considering whether you too are in the right condition to be desired by another person.
God’s Word says: Do unto others as you want them to do unto you (Matthew 7:12). In other words, build yourself up to be a worthy complement to whoever you desire to spend the rest of your life with.
To effectively position yourself in God’s will for an exciting marriage, you need to purge yourself of every impurity so as to exhibit the qualities that you want in your mate by saying this prayer of faith