Guidelines For An Exciting Marriage Part 4 By Pastor Faith Oyedepo
So far, I have opened you up to guidelines for an exciting marriage as possessing the right perspective about marriage, keeping yourself pure, and setting a standard for yourself. I see God giving you a change of story in Jesus’ name!
When two separate individuals merge into one, a unique fusion occurs. They become open to each other as no one keeps secrets from himself. Just as it is impossible for the toe to hurt without the brain knowing because they are both members of one body,
Similarly, God expects that when two become one in holy wedlock, nothing should be kept as a secret between them. Both must be open to one another and walk in sincerity. This is why in this edition, I will be teaching on The Power of Openness.
The devil often makes people believe that if they open up completely, they may never be accepted for whom they are or they may not love them anymore. However, this is not true.
The Bible says: And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed (Genesis 2:25). If, in the beginning, the man and his wife were naked but did not experience shame; then, it means that when you apply the same principle of openness to your marriage, you should not experience shame.
When a wound is covered, it tends to fester and worsen; but when it is opened, healing comes. Whatever is covered will eventually be exposed; and when it comes to light, it may come with shame and disaster (Proverbs 28:13).
Even after marriage, important things that happen in our day-to-day lives should be shared. Openness breeds trust and trust is the foundation for effective communication. Don’t speak in parables. Be truthful in your communication.
For instance, be free to tell your spouse when you’re not happy about his/her lack of personal hygiene or anything else. You’ll be surprised that it’s such little things that cause big problems.
Let your conversation be filled with sincerity. Don’t tell half-truths. A half-truth is a whole lie. Good marriages are founded upon effective communication. Learn to discuss freely with your spouse. Openness is not only for women; men also need to learn the art of opening up to their wives. The Bible says:…Hide not thyself from thine own flesh (Isaiah 58:7).
When a man takes a woman as wife, the Bible declares that, in God’s eyes, they are one flesh.
Ephesians 5:28, God declares: So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
God says in Genesis 2:24: Therefore, shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife; and they shall be one flesh.
Intimacy is often thought of only in terms of the physical relationship. But when God says one should cleave to his wife, He is saying that there is total intimacy of spirit, soul, and body. If there is no intimacy of the soul and spirit, then the physical relationship will not be fulfilling.
Build closeness by sitting down frequently and talking things over. Be a good listener and communicate effectively! Share your feelings! Let your spouse know that he/she is the most important person on earth to you.
Many times, after marriage, times of intimate sharing become less frequent; the early super-romantic feeling dwindles. Then some married partners say they are no longer “in love”. But the early romantic spirit of courtship must continue to grow if the marriage is to be a successful one.
It is written: Through wisdom is a house builded; and by understanding it is established: (Proverbs 24:3). Homes are established upon understanding because it enables you to read between the lines.
Many homes have been destroyed because of lack of understanding. The husband misunderstands his wife’s actions; the woman also reads meanings into simple statements made by the man.
When your spouse speaks, his words may be few; but because you understand him very well, he successfully communicates (1 Samuel 25:23-25).
When you understand your husband or wife, less friction is bound to occur. A woman, with a good understanding of your man, you can pass on things you have observed that he does, which may not be profitable. May the Lord give you an understanding of Jesus’ name!
To have an exciting marriage, you have to surrender your life to Jesus Christ. This is by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as your personal Saviour and Lord. If you are ready for this new birth experience, please say this prayer in faith: