One obvious fact about marriage is that we all desire and dream of enjoying a successful marriage even before we got married. Even after our marriage, it is our heart desire that our marriages will be heaven on earth, that we will enjoy a marital bliss.
In reality, some couples are enjoying the best of time in their marriages while others are struggling in their marriages. Worse still, marriages of some other couples have ended in divorce while others are having marital crises.
Another obvious fact is that every successful venture is gotten by knowing and applying correctly known principles that guarantee the success of those ventures. In the same vein, the success or failures of your marriages depend on the knowledge and correct application of known biblical principles that are at your disposals.
Our society today, if you look at the marriage of some couples, you will observe that they are enjoying successful and exciting/blissful marriages. While as others couples, even though their marriages are not in crises, such marriages are so boring and they are enduring their marriages instead of enjoying them.
As said, a closer look at some couples, you will observe that they are having the best of time in their marriages while other couples; you will clearly see that their marriages are full of crises and on the verge of collapse. What could be said about your own marriage?
The extents to which you enjoy your marriage depend on whether you know and apply correctly known biblical principles that guarantee success and exciting marriages?
The first three principles can be seen be seen in Genesis 2:24 which says, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh”
For the success of your marriage, the first principle says that a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife. Couples who fail to leave their father and mother can never enjoy their marriage to the fullness. To leave your father and mother is to marry your wife independent of the control of your father and mother,
The second principle says that, after leaving their father and mother, “they shall become one flesh”. To be one flesh means that they are inseparable. There is no couple that has really become one flesh that will think of going for a divorce.
In the book of Genesis 2:25 other principles are seen there, “And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed. The third principle says that they were both naked.
In a marriage relationship, to be naked means that they have no secrets between them. One of the issues that destroy marriage is a lack of trust among couples which most at a time brought by secretiveness. Can it be said that you and your spouse are naked to each other? That is, not being secretive?
In addition to being naked, couples must never be ashamed of each other. The moment couples begin to be ashamed of each other; such couples begin to compare their spouses with other men and women in the society.
The book of Ephesians 5: 25 points out another principle that makes for a successful marriage. It says, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her”,
Show me any man who has obeyed the above injunction by having a deep love for his wife, and I will show you a man who is enjoying his marriage to the fullness. In the same vein, Ephesians 5: 22 says, “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
Women who fail to be submissive to their husband can never enjoy their marriage to the fullness. Also Ephesians 5:23 talk about a man been the head of the woman “For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the savior of the body.
In other words, show me a woman who is submissive to her husband and who recognizes and accord respect to her husband as the head of the family and I will show you a marriage living in peace and harmony.
The Problems with some women is that they refuse to submit themselves to their husbands and some women are known even to challenge the headship and authority of their husbands.
From all that is said above, the success or failure of your marriage depends on the extent to which you know and correctly apply all the principles mentioned above. It is an obvious fact, couples whose marriages had failed has deviated in applying correctly these principles.
Finally, what could be said of your own marriage? To what extent do you know and apply the above principles? It is not yet too late as you can start today to apply the above principles in your marriage. Shalom!